Parenting with the Power of Yes

June 14, 2016
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Positive language – particularly the word “yes” – has a lot of power. Using it leaves us feeling good about ourselves and others, turns battles into collaboration, models respect, validates feelings, and builds empathy. Why is this? Well, as Andrew Newberg, M.D. and Mark Robert Waldman explain in their book, Words Can Change Your Brain,.. read more →

Who’s Your ANT? Perfectionist

April 25, 2016
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It’s great to have high standards. This is often what pushes us to do our best and succeed. However, when our standards go beyond the truly achievable and don’t allow for mistakes, they get in the way of work, school, and our relationships. A sign that your standards are too high is when there is.. read more →

Who’s Your ANT? Victim

April 5, 2016
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Ever felt like the world is out to get you? Do you take responsibility for others’ feelings or blame yourself when something goes wrong – even if it really has nothing to do with you? If so, it’s likely you’re prone to Victim ANT infestations. “It’s not fair!” Fairness is subjective. When the Victim ANT.. read more →

Who’s Your ANT? Critic

March 9, 2016
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I can’t do anything right. I look… <insert favorite self-critical word here> What’s wrong with me? My grades stink! I’ll never make the baseball team! If your Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs) are frequently about what’s wrong with you (you don’t measure up), then you probably suffer from infestations of the Critic. Critic ANTs are just.. read more →

Who’s Your ANT? Worry

February 23, 2016
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There are four categories of ANTs (Automatic Negative Thoughts): Worry, Critic, Victim, and Perfectionist. As humans, we’re all open to an infestation of one, some, or all of the ANT types; however, I find that people tend to have “favorites.” Worry is your ANT of choice if your thoughts go towards catastrophe, pessimism, “knowing” what.. read more →